What would be the best route to help SLOWLY help stop my dependency&addiction to OTC sleep meds &"benadryll?"

nightly abuse with both drugs, often mixed. using for 2 years and im afraid to go cold turkey, i just need a real suggestion of steps i can take without going to a Dr. im not mentally prepared to stop compleatly, and im afraid to tell my loved ones. anything i can try for me to help myself in private.