Help...hurt, lost and alone?

You need to consider this as only her opinion, not that of your other friends. She had no right to tell you this on behalf of everyone. Maybe SHE is the problematic one, and has all your other friends agreeing with her views just to keep her happy, and its not really the way they feel. Women can be harsh and cruel, but its not always how they trully feel. You should talk to your other friends. But... don't have them start taking sides- it just gets worse and worse!